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Jerry Chesko wrote:
> "Werebat" <ranpoirier@cox.net> wrote in message
> news:5ZZae.32629$d43.737@lakeread03...
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>>Jerry Chesko wrote:
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>>><peeve>
>>>1) Players who don't consistently show up, granted people have lives and
>>>emergencies come up, but dimmit not every week someone's cat dies to
>>>allow a stay of execution.
>>>2)Refering to item one (1): The bounty of lame excuses that come with not
>>>appearing to play the game when scheduled.
>>> The reason this one bugs me is becuase I have 'hit the reset switch'
>>>on a game I've tried to get started three times now, becuase of players
>>>doing one session and then bailing one me. Admittedly, I'm a rookie to
>>>DMing, but rather than bailing ya think someone would tell me that I need
>>>to fix this or tweak that rather than up 'n' leaving.
>>>3) Babysitting players kids while trying to run the game.
>>> One of the players has a three-year-old daughter that she brings over
>>>who gets into everything and anything not nailed down. Making matters
>>>worse is the thought that because the player declared her kid my
>>>goddaughter, that I have to put up with this major inconvienence.
>>></peeve>
>>>
>>>Maybe it's just because I'm on 'the other side of the fence', but I
>>>always though that DMing was easy from the player's POV since he had to
>>>react to what the players did and make sure that they stuck close to his
>>>script. yeesh
>>>
>>>Pointers would be great BTW
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>>Regarding the child...
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>>I have my own (now 5-year-old) child, and IME as both a player and a DM on
>>nights when he is in my sole care... (Yeah, try *DMing* with a small
>>child in *your* care sometime...)
>>
>>The best solution is to play at the house of the parent with the child,
>>and have them be a *player* not a DM. As a player you can go off to fix a
>>poopie diaper or whatever for 5 minutes and the game will usually go on
>>without you. Not so for a DM.
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> Shie *is* the player, the problem I'm having (besides a misplaced spine, in
> my wife's honest opinion) is that she comes over and just lets the hellion
> run amok. I'm the only one willing to DM the sessions so everyone is torn
> between keeping said hellion
> out of thier things and paying attention to what I'm doing/saying/whatever.
Right, I got that part.
I was thinking of my own experience gaming with my infant son. When my
ex and I divorced, we agreed to share 50/50 joint custody so I match her
hour for hour every week in time spent with our son. Because I work and
she doesn't <bites tongue>, this usually means I have him 4 nights a
weeks plus time on weekends.
When he was an infant/toddler, we had two games running at my apartment.
I DMed one and a friend DMed the other. I always made sure I didn't
have my son on the nights I was DMing, because I knew he would be a
major distraction. I also always made sure I *did* have him on the
nights I was a player in the other game, because I didn't want to eat up
two of my 3 childfree nights a week with gaming.
My son is actually a pretty sedate kid, and went to bed at 8:00 without
waking up (no matter how much noise we made in the next room). This
meant that until 8 or so, I as a player might be absent for 5 minutes at
a time changing poopie diapers, making bottles/food, entertaining, etc.
Not really a huge deal, as it would have been were I DMing.
Years later, my friend moved into his own house some distance away and I
moved into my current girlfriend's house. We started new campaigns
around that time, but this time my friend wanted to run his at his
house. This was his prerogative, but it caused me some trouble because
I now had to choose between eating up two childfree nights a week with
gaming, and trying to DM with my son present until bedtime (with the
game screeching to a halt whenever I needed to tend to him). I knew
right away that bringing him to my friend's house would be a disaster,
because he'd never go to sleep in an unfamiliar house with what would
amount to a "party" going on.
At the same time, I thought it was important for him to be exposed to my
friends and to enjoy some time with the "grownups". Now my ideal would
still be to run my game while he wasn't here, and have the other game
run here on a night when I have him, but as my friend won't go for that
idea, I've been compromising by having my juggling my schedule with my
son to have him here every other game session that I DM, and never on
nights at my friend's house. It helps a lot that my girlfriend is
usually here on nights that my son is, and she doesn't mind helping with
him.
As there will be a new arrival here in about two months (son #2), soon
this will be something of a moot issue for me because there will simply
be no nights when there are no children around at this house. I still
think it would be best for the two DMs (myself and my friend) to switch
houses during our respective gaming sessions, so we are players while we
are tending to our kids (he has a toddling daughter), but he won't go
for the idea. I can't say I really blame him -- we game in his basement
and his wife takes the little one all night, so we hardly even see her.
I have a feeling his viewpoint might change if he ever has a little
son around (or even if his daughter takes a vocal interest in hanging
out with us when she starts talking), but that's how it stands now.
- Ron ^*^