Where on the cable it is doesn't matter if he has the jumper set. If you don't have either jumper set, then the cable will determine master/slave, but if you have the jumpers set, then they will determine it.
You DO have to create a partition and format it though. I'm surprised you can't do it from winXP easily like that, but create a boot disk, boot from it, type fdisk, and then make a partition and format it on your new drive.
Some day I'll be rich and famous for inventing a device that allows you to stab people in the face over the internet.