Next question please!

Your're obviously not married. Women have their own sense of logic.

I wonder...what is the speed of gravity?

lol, you're money is her money, her money is her money.

Bubba, when you get someone to be friend for life, its about giving and taking and......er forgiving.

It don't come easy.......not always.

the girl at your work is such a g$dD@Mn hypocrite. i can not stand this do as i say don't say what i do attitude that some people have when it comes to relationships. in todays world there is no need for the "man" to hand over his money to his "wife". the reason i say this is that the majority of couples both work, bringing in dual incomes. i believe that a couple should have one shared or joint account to take care of the bills (mortgage/rent, house repairs etc). just because a man doesn't give all his money to his wife does not mean he does not trust her. we are long past the days where women had to solely rely on the men in their lives to support them. you should tell the girl you work with that her viewpoint is a double standard and she is simply being selfish. i personally work hard for my money and am not into giving it away. lets take this one step further, pre nuptial agreements. when you get married, do you take the risk of going in and loosing everything you due to divorce, or do you protect yourself and sign a prunuptial agreement, to make sure that if it doesn't work out, you at least have what you had before? it is no longer about trust, it is all about respect, and as long as you and your significant other have respect for each other, than your relationship will be just fine, money or no money.

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Joint bank account????

I don't even have a joint fridge account!

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"Now drop your weapons or I'll kill him with this deadly jelly baby."
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Hmmm, I have a different mentality to a lot of the posts here.

First off I got married when I was 22. My wife was 20. That means that we had NOTHING to start with. I had a car and a computer. That was it. She had nothing.

So we had a joint account from the time we were dating. So now we have a joint bank account, a joint broker account, but I still have a broker account left that is in my parents trust fund. I could of course fix that, but who has the energy and my wife could kill me and still be family. My parents would take care of her. That's part of the deal when you get married so young. I'll have been married for 10 years before some of my friends find the right person. It's scary...

So basically everything we have is mutual. I couldn't think of it any other way. My student loans go in there, her student loans will go in there, my salary, her salary. It makes absolutely no difference whatsoever.

Personally I couldn't do it any other way. Everything we own is considered OURS. Sometimes we run into a snag with stuff that we dig out of the closet from times when we were kids, but it's just a running joke for us. I claim her baby stuffed animals as mine and she gets all pissed over it. It's hillareous.

<font color=red>Yeah, I took a crap on your lawn. Whatcha gonna do about it?</font color=red>

I’ve been married for a year and have no plans on getting a joint account with my wife anytime soon. Actually we did open a join account but I never use it and just kept using my original account so it’s basically hers. I pay the majority of the bills (since I make the majority of the money) and she just pitches in some cash each month. Call me paranoid but I like not worrying about someone else taking money out of my account. It also seems weird buying gifts for each other out of the joint account. I feel even if I did start using the joint account with my wife I would still need my mad money for gifts and toys. Also this way I don’t have to remember a new account number


Thx & Cya




<font color=green>I may go to <font color=red>hell</font color=red> but at least I won't get lonely</font color=green>

This is the ideal setup IMO.

3 bank accounts.
1 joint
1 yours
1 hers

50%-75% of each of your paychecks goes in the joint.
25%-50% goes into the individual.

The joint account pays for all the bills, the individual
accounts pay for all of your toys. Just make sure that
the percentage going into the joint account covers the
bills and whatever leftover is "happy money"
Helps you control your spending too.

simple no?

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Ha ha ha. Some women out there are truely illogical. I've met a few like that, that think that what's his is hers and what's hers is hers. Never what's hers is his though.

My wife is kind of like that with things. It took buying her a laptop to finally get her to deal with the fact that my computer is mine! He he he. Generally though, we see everything as shared.

We have two joint bank accounts, no more, no less. Right now I work and she stays at home, so I'm bringing in all of the money and thus paying for everything. But we want a permanent stay-at-home parent for when we have kids. If she could work a job that'd make more than I did, I'd be glad to stay at home and do the cleaning and such. It's not a gender thing, it's just a who is more experienced thing.

I hate it though when women think the way that woman you talk about thinks. A marriage is about two lives coming together in harmony and trust. There really should be no mine and your, just our.

<pre><font color=orange>Sunnova</font color=orange> <font color=blue>Beach</font color=blue>, <i>ain't life a beach?</i></pre><p>

[ROFL so hard I fell out of my chair]

Too true. All too true.

Granted, there are some good women out there. However, WAAAAAAAY too many of them hold such an illogical double-standard that they're just not worth the effort of holding a long-term relationship with.

I'm all for women's rights. I'm all for equality. But damned if it doesn't stop at just that, equality. Too many women want way too much. They want more than equality, they want everything and they don't want men to have any of the same rights.

They want a man who can provide them a good standard of living. They want the man to also be sensitive enough to give them emotional support. But then they also want to be able to work a job and not have to contribute equally to providing a standard of living. Or they want to sit and home and watch TV all day and be on the internet all day while their man works to support them, but they don't want to have to share any of the responsabilities like cleaning, cooking, or doing the laundry. And they definately don't want to actually have to give a man emotional support.

Bloody women. I hate women like that.

There are some good women out there that aren't anything like that, but they are rare. Almost any woman out there will be at least somewhat like that. I don't think the word EQUALITY is the same in the woman's dictionary as it is in the men's.

Luckily I found a woman that isn't too bad.

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Bubba,

I am married (23 years and counting), and have always had joint accounts for everything.

What's mine is hers, and what's hers is hers.

That's just the way it is.

Seriously, you have to have trust in each other in order for things to work out. Separate bank accounts = no trust = poor relationship = future divorce.

Perhaps I am simply too old fashioned.

<font color=blue>This is a Forum, not a playground. Treat it with Respect.</font color=blue>

LOL!
That's what I thought.
I guess from now on I will do as I'm told.

I see stupid people. They're everywhere. They walk around like everyone else.

SLVR and CHRIS

So it is not all in my head. I expected to be flamed out for that last post. If more women were in here I bet I would be on some kind of ban list.

Here is another one: Men are idiots and hurt womens feelings all the time by <b>accident</b> but when a women gets here feeling hurt she turns around and hurts the man on <b>purpose</b>. Plenty of hurt to go around for both sexes but men (usually) aint doin it on purpose.

BTW Bubba I hate you for stirring this pot.

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Why don't you let me know exactly where you will be around noon tomorrow so I can rob your a$$.

I thought you were still in school, what is your business? Drugs! I knew it!! I could tell from some of your posts.

I see stupid people. They're everywhere. They walk around like everyone else.

C-O-L-L-E-G-E. I live in a C-A-M-P-U-S apartment with my wife and two of my five stepchildren. And I couldn't really tell you how much I make because I can't keep track. Cash is like that. I can only guess.
You wouldn't want to rob me Bubba, I'm putting it away for that shrimp boat we were talking about!

Video killed my Radio Card!

oh yeah, I forgot about the shrimpin boat.

I see stupid people. They're everywhere. They walk around like everyone else.