First of all. Please write in paragraphs next time!
Okay, now I am going to answer some of your statements.
"Liked the Xbox 360 over the PS3 because of the voice chat" Don't worry. Both consoles have unified RAM and great online. Chatting and Cross-game chat shouldn't be problem.
"My friends will most likely buy a PS4" If you get a PS4, you can play online with them. Both consoles require payment to play online, so don't convince them to buy both. If they do get an Xbox One later, they will already have their favorite games on their PS4 already.
"I like the xbox controllers better than the PS3 controllers" Both controllers are very new this gen. Try them out at a store to make a final decision.
"I want to use it like an Apple TV. Show youtube clips to my friends, maybe play a podcast on it every once in a while." Given the fact that the PS4 lacks CD playback, MP3 Playback, network media playback, and some other media capabilities, I'd say Xbox One would win in this category.
"I want the servers on the console to be good" Well both consoles have slow online because of all the new users, so I recommend you wait a bit first.
"I don't care about console specific games. All those games are pretty bad IMO and there is a better pc version of them, I don't care about no Halo and no Killzone." Well, okay then. Get multi-platform games for your PC.
"Summary: I am not gonna use the console as my main gaming platform, I'm gonna use it to play with my friend IRL with 4-6 controllers FIFA or some other good real life multiplayer game." So you are only going to use it for local play?
Sounds like you don't really want a next gen console. All your favorite games are on PC, you don't like console exclusives, and you prefer local multiplayer.
Here is what I say: Don't get a next gen console.
If you just want to play Fifa with your friends, get a 4gb Xbox 360, plug a flash drive into it, and play Fifa with your friends and watch Youtube. It seems like you have got it good with your PC, so why fork over $400 or more on a new console?
Anyway, that is what I think you should do.