For comparison purposes, the Xeon is actually more like an i5 (no Hyper-Threading):
http://ark.intel.com/products/65733 (i5-3470) vs.
http://ark.intel.com/products/65733 (Xeon e3-1225 v2).
As for actual performance, it is going to depend on the game you're looking at. In general, Tom's Hardware ranks the FX-8320 on par with the i5-3470 (http://www.tomshardware.com/reviews/cpu-hierarchy,4312.html); although actual performance is going to vary from game to game, I wouldn't expect the Xeon chip to lead the FX chip by too much (both being released over 4 years ago).
That being said, given a choice between
only these 2 boards... I would go for the ASRock/FX combination, for the following reasons:
-- The Xeon board is an OEM build (Lenovo), & I can't guarantee that it doesn't have a proprietary PSU. Their official parts list for the ThinkTower e31 (https://download.lenovo.com/parts/ThinkStation/e31_tower_9_9_2013.pdf) lists a specific 280W PSU & a 450W PSU.
-- The Xeon board is more limited on its expansion capabilities, as it has 1 PCIe x16 slot, 1 PCIe x1 slot, & 2 PCI slots (https://download.lenovo.com/ibmdl/pub/pc/pccbbs/thinkcentre_pdf/e31_hmm.pdf, look at in-document page #s 76-77 & 84-85). The ASRock board also has 2 PCI slots, but it has
2 PCIe x16 slots (plus a 3rd that operates in x4 mode), as well as a x1 slot (http://www.asrock.com/mb/AMD/990FX%20Extreme3/?cat=Specifications), & supports CrossFireX & SLI (to be honest, I'm not sure how it can promise Quad CrossFire/SLI, unless you're willing to be limited to the x1 speed, but I would imagine dual SLI/CrossFire would be doable).
-- Although not necessarily as important, it seems like you don't have as much flexibility with your RAM choices. The Lenovo board seems to only take DDR3-1600MHz RAM (ECC or non-ECC), while the FX chips can use DDR3-1866MHz RAM (or even DDR3-2100 with overclocking). And while 32GB is probably more than enough, the ASRock board can go up to 64GB.